Decluttering and downsizing are often associated with simplifying, in line with the concept “less is more.” Both may be necessary as we continue our journey with Parkinson’s disease. But there’s a third D-word missing: difficult.
My oldest son said, “Downsize now because you want to do it together. Don’t wait until you have to do it.”
So our family decided it was time to make a change. As parents, we didn’t want to put the burden of moving us on our boys. Our decision to downsize now will benefit them later.
We needed a home where getting older and living with Parkinson’s would be safer and easier. However, our timetable was accelerated when life threw us a curveball. This time, we didn’t miss. An unplanned job opportunity became the push we needed to head in the right direction.
Time to declutter
It’s trendy now to minimize your belongings and keep only what you need. There are many decluttering tips and checklists out there to follow. However, “difficult” makes its debut when you try to define “need.” The bedtime stories we read to our children are no longer needed, but they are not irrelevant. Our high school yearbooks aren’t necessary, but they are important to us. Where is the line between clutter and comfort?
My husband and I started with some guidelines: one box for our memorabilia and one box for our boys’ memorabilia. This lasted almost an entire day. We now have a new guideline: If it speaks to our heart, it’s coming with us. We can get a bigger box.
Downsizing and planning with purpose
There are many benefits to downsizing, including:
- Less cleaning, which allows more time to do things.
- Fewer home maintenance expenses.
- A safer living space designed to fit your needs.
- Peace of mind for your friends and family.
The most important benefit is safety. Following are several safety concerns to consider.
- Avoid a home with stairs, if possible. If that is not an option, install carpet and handrails on both sides of the staircase.
- Ensure your shower is safe and accessible by installing tools such as grab bars.
- Eliminate tripping hazards, especially area rugs and uneven floor transitions.
- Organize closets and cupboards to make frequently used items easily accessible.
The actual moving process also is difficult and draining. Physically, it will be a struggle, but we will take our time. The emotional aspect is a different story. We are leaving the only home our family has ever known. Thirty years of memories were made within these walls, on the porch, and in the yard. Our attachment is magnetic.
Honestly, I am struggling, but I find comfort in a fellow columnist’s wise words. Referring to his home as a sanctuary, Dr. C wrote, “The beauty of this physical sanctuary can be recreated, and we carry the rest with us.”
For us, we will start a new chapter by creating a new home. We will take the most important stuff with us: the memories we have in our hearts. No boxes required.
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